Traditions and rituals help us to express our deepest thoughts about life’s most significant events. Special ceremonies like graduations, weddings, and christenings include traditions and rituals that help us mark important life milestones. These same traditions help start the healing process, when a loved one dies.



Rituals provide an outlet for expressing our deepest emotions, when words are not enough. Rituals also bring people together in a shared experience. Funerals, visitations and memorials help us feel a solidarity with others who are sharing our grief and loss. They provide a sense of comfort in knowing that we are not alone in our grief.

Once the funeral is over, how can we incorporate the benefit of rituals into our healing journey? Here are a few suggestions of rituals that might be helpful:

Recall memories – Family and friends may choose to gather on special occasions to share memories and honor a loved one.

Honor their lives – If your loved one had a special place in their heart for something unique, then spend time volunteering or help support organizations that benefit the causes that mattered to them.

Visit the grave – Some people who grieve find comfort in visiting the grave of their loved one, leaving fresh flowers, or simply spending time reflecting on the loss.

Carry a remembrance item – Sometimes a small keepsake, like a watch, a piece of jewelry, or a small heirloom can serve as a reminder of a lost loved one.

Don’t limit yourself to these suggestions. Feel free to explore other ways of remembering your loved ones.