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October 2015

Honoring the Memories of a Lifetime

October 2015 - Around The Town Enewsletter

 

Memories of a Lifetime” Program Offers Holiday Grief Support

How Photos And Video Can Help The Grieving Process

Cell Phone Etiquette

Misconceptions About Grief

Paul Gardner To Be President of Mount Joy Library Board

 

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“Memories of a Lifetime” Program
Offers Holiday Grief Support

 

Find Your Holiday Cheer Again After Losing a Loved One

 

 

 

Memories Of A Lifetime ProgramIf you are suffering from the recent loss of a loved one, the upcoming holidays may no longer seem as festive. Buch Funeral Home wants to help you regain the hope of the holidays, by offering a special program to help you better understand and cope with grief and loss in the midst of the holiday season.

 

 

This is a free program open to anyone who is dealing with the loss of a loved one. The event is led by Patti Anewalt, PhD, LPC, FT, Director of Pathways Center for Grief & Loss, Hospice & Community Care.“Creating Holiday Memories of a Lifetime” will be held on Sunday, November 22, 2015 at 2:00pm at Enck’s Banquet & Conference Center. Reservations can be made by calling Aaron at 665-4341.

 

The Creating Holiday Memories program is presented in a supportive and confidential environment and will include helpful ideas on ways to effectively cope. Presentations by Pathways Center and Buch funeral directors will share ideas that families can use to create their own memorials for loved ones. All participants of the program will receive resource materials on handling grief along with a special thank you gift. Refreshments will also be served.

 

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How Photos And Video Can Help The Grieving Process

 

Photos & Video Can Help You HealOur society is strongly driven by visual images. A single image or video clip can trigger a range of emotions or connect someone to a certain time or place. Because of the powerful connection images have with people’s emotions, pictures and videos of a loved one can have a significant healing power during a time of grief.


While some people may be hesitant to open the photo albums and reminisce about loved ones who have passed; engaging in this activity with others can help you share the grief in losing someone. Additionally, sharing photos starts a conversation that allows others to share stories.  Hearing stories about loved ones from others gives us a deeper knowledge of them and can help us find comfort in new stories and images. By reminiscing with others, one can also find comfort in laughter. Sharing a humorous story using video or pictures can help a grieving person heal.


Because visual remembrances are so powerful, many funeral homes offer tribute videos or tribute walls to help families collect and share pictures and videos with friends and family. Buch Funeral Home offers a tribute wall on their obituaries page on the website. This section allows others to post notes to the family or post videos and pictures of the deceased to share with others. These public tributes can create a sense of community and a sharing of grief by connecting people who all feel the loss of the person who has passed.


If you would like more information about Buch’s tribute videos or tribute wall, please call 665-4341 or 653-4371.

 

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Cell Phone Etiquette

 

Cell Phone EtiquetteCell phones are everywhere. You see people talking on them or looking at them at the movie theaters, in their cars, and at meetings. The general population’s obsession with the digital world causes many issues in today’s society. Aside from safety issues associated with using mobile phones at certain times, there are other social “no, no’s” to consider.

 

Most of us have experienced a time when we were shocked at someone’s poor cell phone behavior. Phubbing (phone snubbing) is a common occurrence when the person you are speaking with pulls out their phone to check a text, Facebook, or an email. Or you may have witnessed a situation where someone answered a phone call in the middle of a meeting.

 

One of the worst cell phone offenses is being disrespectful at a funeral. The simple answer for solving this issue would be to just turn the phone off. Unfortunately, this answer doesn’t really work anymore. Our phones have become our portable computers that store important information such as contacts, calendars and photos. So how should you handle the use of cell phones at a service or memorial?

 

Do’s and Don’ts of funeral cell phone usage

  1. The first step is to turn your phone to silent or at the very least vibrate. If you do leave it on vibrate, PLEASE do not answer it once the service has begun. Voicemail is a great feature that will do its job if you let it.

  2. Save texting for before and after the service. The deceased and their family and friends deserve your respect and attention.

  3. Photos and selfies are a huge part of today’s culture but at a funeral you need to show more decorum than just snapping away, especially if you want a picture of Uncle Johnny in his casket. Ask the next of kin for their permission to take that photo before doing so.

  4. If you are using your phone as a distraction for younger children who may be attending, please find another room for them to watch a movie or play a game. Try to bring headphones as well to limit the noise level.

 

Because most of us own a cell phone, we are all aware of the temptations and problems they can bring into our lives. But, there are many simple steps we can take to hopefully avoid some temptation and provide everyone the respect they deserve.

 

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Misconceptions About Grief

 

Misconceptions About GriefGrief is a very personal and sometimes overwhelming emotion. Because it is an individual process for each person, many have a hard time understanding another’s journey through grief. This often perpetuates many misconceptions about what grief is, how one should handle it, and the process of making it through. To gain a better insight into what others may be dealing with, it’s helpful to learn some misconceptions about grief.

 

Misconception: There are five stages of grief and you must go through all of them.

 

While there are five stages that can be part of grief, each person handles their emotions differently. Not everyone will experience each stage. Many factors come into play when talking about a person’s emotions such as what their past is like, what stresses are occurring in their lives, and what type of support system they have. No one situation or person is the same so it can’t be said that an emotion as complex as grief will be handled the same way by everyone.

 

Misconception: The five stages occur just once and they occur one right after another.

 

A person can experience the different stages of grief multiple times, based on their situation. If the loss of their loved one came after a long health battle, that person may experience the different stages multiple times or they may experience them once. If a death came because of a tragedy, that too may cause people to feel different stages multiple times as more information is learned about the tragedy.

 

Misconception: Your goal should be to “get over” your grief.

 

Thinking that grief is something you have to “get over” can be detrimental to you being able to work through it. The loss of a loved one isn’t something a person can just get over and forget about. It is something that each individual needs to learn how to live with. The goal should be aimed more towards working through your grief and finding a way to live with the loss of this person. Feeling as though you need to “get over” the loss may only set you back because you don’t ever feel as though you are getting to that point.

 

There are many other misconceptions about grief so it is important to remember that each person’s experience with it is going to be different. Each person needs their own time and space to learn how to live with the loss of their loved one.

 

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Paul Gardner To Be President of Mount Joy Library Board

 

Paul GardnerPaul Gardner, Supervisor at the Buch Funeral Home in Mount Joy, will be named the President of the Milanof-Schock Library board of directors. Paul is currently the Vice President of the board and will take over duties as the President starting in January 2016.

 

The Milanof-Schock Library opened in 1999 to serve the residents in the five municipalities comprising the Donegal School District (Mount Joy and Marietta Boroughs, and the townships of East Donegal, Mount Joy, and Rapho).  The Library is now considered the region’s de facto community center as well by becoming the after-school haven for youth, offering life-long learning for residents, offering free internet access and many more services.

 

Since 2010 Buch Funeral Home has been making contributions to the Milanof-Schock Library, adding over $3,000 of books and audio materials to the library’s permanent lending collection.

 

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