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June 2014

Honoring the Memories of a Lifetime

June 2014 - Around The Town Enewsletter

Funeral Webcasting Services Now Available
Frank Rittenhouse Has Manheim Community At Heart
The Facts About Organ Donation
Grief And Sibling Rivalry

 

Funeral Webcasting Services Now Available

Attending a loved one’s funeral service is an important part of the grieving process, allowing mourners to feel a sense of closure and completeness. Unfortunately, family members who have health issues or who live a great distance from where the funeral services will be held often have to forgo attending.  

Buch FUneral WebcastingThanks to the latest in cutting-edge technology, Buch Funeral Home now offers friends and family members the ability to view funeral services, regardless of their circumstances or location. Buch has installed special webcasting equipment that allows the bereaved to view a service from anywhere in the world. Webcasting is an option that families can select for services at the Manheim and Mount Joy funeral home locations, as well as at many churches in the area.

According to Ted Beck, Buch Funeral Home Supervisor, “We understand the need for families to come together during their time of grief, and although some friends and family may not be able to be here in person, the webcast provides them a connection to their loved ones and a chance to be a part of the service in way they never could before.”

It’s simple to view services that are being offered via webcasting. The services are either available live, at the time of the service, or recorded for viewing later. Either way, you just need to log on to the Buch Funeral Home website at www.buchfuneral.com. Find the service listing and click to view the details regarding the webcast. All you need to view the service is a computer with an internet connection.

For more information on webcasting, talk to any of the professionals at Buch or email us at info@buchfuneral.com.

 
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Frank Rittenhouse Has Manheim Community At Heart

 

For Frank Rittenhouse, a casual comment to a friend about finding some extra work became a long-time relationship with Buch Funeral Home and the families they serve.


A lifetime resident of the Manheim area, Frank enjoys interacting with all the people—often times old friends and family members—who come to services at the funeral home or local churches. For the past 20 years, he has assisted in almost all facets of the business—from greeter to parking lot attendant and everything in between.  “It’s a great part-time job, and I thoroughly enjoy the people I get to see and to meet,” Rittenhouse said.


“It is a privilege to have employees, like Frank, who really are the heart of our community,” said Ted Beck, Supervisor. “Buch Funeral Home places a high value on being a part of the communities we serve.

In addition to his work at Buch, Rittenhouse is a third grade teacher at Manheim Christian Day School.  After receiving his M.A. from Millersville University, he has been in education, in administration or in the classroom, for 34 years.

 

Frank is also a familiar face at the Salem United Methodist Church in Manheim, where he is the regular organist.  A piano and organ teacher in the area, he also sings in octets, quartets, and choirs. An avid lover of church history and local history, he enjoys keeping himself busy and can be seen at the funeral home all year round.

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The Facts About Organ Donation


Eighteen people on waiting lists in the United States die each day waiting for organ donations.

Organ and tissue transplantation has become an integral part of healthcare in Pennsylvania, and individuals who voluntarily choose to share the gift of life have contributed to the continuing success of transplants. An increase in organ donations has helped shorten the waiting list, but more donors are still needed to help save lives.

Gift Of LifeAnyone, young or old, can donate their organs. The ability to donate is determined on a case-by-case basis at the time of death. Age is not a prohibiting factor. Being a donor costs nothing to the donor's family or estate. There are no major organized religions that object to organ and tissue donation. Unfortunately, there are a number of urban myths that spread false information about the organ donation process. You can learn the true facts at http://www.donors1.org/learn2.
 
People who decide to become donors are encouraged to discuss their pla
ns (especially if they recently made the decision) with family members. Only including the information in your will is not recommended. Because, by the time your will is read, it may be too late for the organs to be donated. It's better to have a conversation to make certain that your wishes are honored.

Donate Life The simplest way to designate that you would like to donate is by indicating your decision on your driver's license. If you haven’t already and are interested in becoming an organ donor, you can visit the PA Department of Transportation’s website at http://www.dot4.state.pa.us/organ_donor/index.shtml. If you are under age 18, you will need a parent or guardian’s signature to have the donor designation placed on your driver’s license, learner’s permit or photo ID card.

When people consider organ donation, they many also wonder if organ donation will interfere with their funeral plans. Your decision to donate your organs in no way impacts your funeral service. Organs and tissues are removed in procedures similar to surgery, and all incisions are closed at the conclusion of the surgery. Doctors maintain dignity and respect for the donor at all times. An open casket is also possible after donation.

At Buch Funeral Home, we work closely with local hospitals and organ donation organizations to ensure that everything goes smoothly.

Other resources that may be helpful for you and your family are:
Donate Life-PA
877-DONOR-PA
http://www.donatelifepa.org/

Gift of Life Donor Program
800-DONORS-1 (800-366-6771)
http://www.donors1.org/learn2/


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Grief And Sibling Rivalry


The Psychiatric Dictionary describes sibling rivalry as “usual situations where brothers or sisters engage in intense competition one against the other for the love and affection and approval either for one or another of their parents.”  

If you have siblings, you have no doubt felt envy or favoritism at one time or another over the years. A certain amount of rivalry among siblings is natural, but it can be more painful and drive family members apart when dealing with the death of a parent.

 

Award-winning writer and grief lecturer, Dr. Earl A. Grollman, offers a few thoughts that may be beneficial to families who are struggling with sibling rivalry:

  • Remember, there is no perfect family relationship. Everyone is burdened, scared or broken.

  • Every argument has two sides. Try to recognize the other person’s strengths, not just their shortcomings.

  • Vindictiveness doesn’t help you “get even.” 

  • Past wounds can be healed if they are acknowledged and confronted. The scars of yesterday should not mar a healthy mental outlook today.

 

If you decide to address sibling rivalry issues, your priority should not be just winning the argument. As psychologist, turned TV host, Dr. Phil would describe it, “being a right fighter.” Sometimes, it is important to agree to disagree and wait for a better time.  

 

  • When it is time to have a face-to-face meeting, make sure you find a time and space without distractions and disruptions so that you can really start a dialogue that includes talking and listening.

  • Focus on the present. Work on resolving the hurt and moving forward with a renewed relationship.Most importantly, the death of a parent (or any family member) should be a time for families to come together, grieve and share memories. Even if complete family harmony is not possible, simply being civil is the best approach.

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