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Around The Town Enewsletter is published throughout the year by Buch Funeral Home and distributed as a free service to families we have served in the past or those who have subscribed to our Enewsletter.

 

 
 
 

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June 2017

 

Starting The Discussion About Preplanning

Join Us In Lititz For A Patriotic Fourth of July

What Is Anticipatory Grief?

Did He Die, Pass Away, or Depart This Earthly Life

Starting The Discussion About Preplanning


Taking The First Step With Recording Personal Information

 

Having the discussion about the type of funeral services that you or your loved ones would like is not an easy discussion to have. Most people shy away from even thinking about the topic of death, let alone actually discussing it.

 

One tool that can help get a conversation started and ease into this discussion is preparing a personal information list. Sometimes referred to as an In Case of Emergency or ICE document, this compendium of personal details will help organize important documents and information in one place. Having an ICE document provides emergency contact information and makes it easy for family members to manage your affairs if you are not able to.

 

An ICE document can be simple (a single page) or as detailed (a folder or booklet) as you would like. Recording this important information will provide your family a helpful guide in case of emergency and can often open the window to a larger discussion about what your family would want for a funeral service and memorial.

 

Personal Information To Include

 

Each ICE document will be a little different, but here’s a general list of information that you should consider including: personal details such as family member contacts, social security numbers, military service; healthcare provider contacts; medical and life insurance policies; banking and investment accounts; logins, passwords for online accounts and subscription services. To help you get started, the Buch Family of Funeral Homes has created an ICE document template.

 

 

You can also add a category for Funeral Arrangements which would include details about final wishes for your arrangements, such as cremation/burial, open/closed casket, type of memorial service, etc. Once this book is created, it is a good idea to update it at least once a year, since many things items change frequently. Once your book is created, make sure to let a family member know where this book can be found if it is needed. 


Join Us In Lititz For A Patriotic Fourth of July

 

Fourth of JulyBuch Family of Funeral Homes employees and family are excited to be participating in the 2017 Lititz Lion’s Club Patriotic 4th of July Parade on Monday, July 3rd at 6:30pm. We will be sponsoring a multi-layer float featuring 11 people dressed in 4th of July costumes as well as four members of The Fiddleheads Band. You’ll recognize our float by the nine foot star and eagle on top. Be sure to wave as we go by!

 


What Is Anticipatory Grief?

 

Anticipatory GriefWhen people think of grief, they usually relate it to the period following the death of a loved one. What many people don’t realize is that the grieving process can actually start before someone has died.

 

Anticipatory grief is a reaction that occurs before an impending loss. Family and friends of someone who is suffering from a debilitating condition, has declining health or is in hospice care are examples of situations that may trigger anticipatory grief. This type of grief can be more difficult or intense than normal post-death grief.

 

Intellectually, we all understand that “everyone has to go sometime,” but being faced with inevitability on a day-to-day basis can increase anxiety about how much time we have left with our loved ones. Symptoms of anticipatory grief can vary and may include: a heightened concerned for the loved one, imagining their death, a greater sense of urgency to complete unfinished business, depression, exhaustion, and mourning the loss of their loved one’s independence and personality.

 

It is important to remember that while anticipatory grief is natural and can actually help prepare for the loss of a loved one, it can also be overwhelming. There are things that can help you cope if you experience anticipatory grief.

 

Connect with others: The stress created from anticipatory grief can be great, so make sure you stay connected with people. This can be family, friends or support groups that include others going through the same type of situations.

 

Reflect on the remaining time: Reflect on how you want to spend the remaining time with your loved one. Share old memories, talk with them about their bucket list and discuss their final wishes. Don’t allow the stress of the situation diminish the time you do have left.

 

Take care of yourself: Make sure you are taking time to take care of you. Finding an outlet for your stress will help you through this difficult process.

 

Rely on your support system: Often, when people are stressed, they resist accepting help from their support systems. Falling back on others and accepting their help will relieve some of your stress and allow you to enjoy some of the remaining time with your loved one.

 

The last thing to note about anticipatory grief is that those who experience this type of grief are not immune to experiencing the separate and different grief once their loved one passes. While neither is easy, each type of grief is normal when experiencing loss.

 
Did He Die, Pass Away, or Depart This Earthly Life


How We Express Our Loved One’s Death

 

Departing This Earthly LifeDiscussing death has always been a delicate topic especially when it comes to crafting obituaries for loved ones. Over the years, obituaries have evolved, shaped by society’s customs in different ways to tell the tale of someone’s life and death. This can be seen through the evolution of the language used to describe death.

 

How we communicate death today differs from hundreds of years ago. This reflects not only how our attitudes towards death have changed, but also the different causes of death. Back in the pre-1850’s many obituaries announced death in unique phrases including “slain by enemy” or “breathed her soul away into her Savior’s arms.”

 

The language of obituaries can be divided into three broad categories: polite euphemisms, transcendent experiences, and there’s more to the story style. Polite euphemisms are a gentle way to talk about death without mentioning the “d-word”. Transcendent experiences involve using religious or spiritual terms to define death. The there’s more to the story style-obituaries are similar to polite euphemisms in that they avoid explaining how someone died, which are used in times of sensitive topics such as overdose or suicide.

 

Obituaries today follow a more traditional format including a list of close relatives, funeral service details, and at times a favorite hobby. However, many families are beginning to personalize obituaries to help portray the meaningful story of a loved one’s life. Rather than just announcing their death, families can express a loved one’s life through their memories. Many phrases are being used that describe death in a colorful way and bring out the personality and story of the deceased.

 

These new forms of obituaries aren’t just stating the facts of death, but memorialize the person’s life. Personalized obituaries help families during the grieving process in many ways. Families will have the time to reminisce about all the light their loved ones brought to their life, as well as, the positive memories they have shared. A meaningful tribute can create laughter, spark memories, and generate happiness for family and friends.